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Quick Update

Thank you all for the comments on my last post, the The Ache of Longing and Loss. I have read all of them and so appreciate the thoughtful feedback and outpouring of support. But once again, my life is interfering with my ability to respond.

He is doing fine now, but my husband is in the hospital. He was not feeling well yesterday and we ended up going to his cardiologist (whom I adore and deeply trust). He took one look at his EKG and sent us off to the hospital. My husband has a history of arrhythmia and atrial fibrillation and looked to be having an episode. Since my husband was slightly over the 24 hour mark, which is when your chance of forming a blood clot goes way up, he wanted to do a cardio revert right away. Turned out my husband needed an internal echocardiogram first to ensure that no clots had already formed. Not sure how he pulled it off but my cardiologist managed to pull some strings (he teaches at this hospital and is very well respected) and we went straight into the lab. When the echo came back clear, then decided to perform the cardio revert right away since he was already sedated. His heart reverted to normal rhythm and his blood pressure and pulse rate decreased back down to normal levels. He was admitted to the Cardiovascular Care Unit for observation overnight. The doctor on call at the hospital came in to talk to us this morning and said that this episode was actually a heart flutter rather than afib, and recommended that my husband have an ablation on Monday which hopefully will prevent the flutter from happening again. His cardiologist agreed with the treatment so we decided to go ahead. It’s normally a two hour out patient procedure so it’s not too invasive and the risk is lower for this type of ablation then the one done for afib. SO… my husband is doing well and is getting excellent care.

In general I am holding up well, especially when I’m around people, but must confess to feeling a bit drained. Because of Monday’s session some of my more childlike feelings are floating closer to the surface and at times I just want to collapse in a heap and have someone take care of me, instead of being calm and strong for my husband and children. And then I feel guilty, because, after all, he’s the one having heart problems and sitting in a hospital bed. So its a struggle making sure I am taking care of myself while trying to make sure my husband is taken care of and manage the feelings of being overwhelmed coming from memories of what it was like as a child. I did call BN last night and it helped to connect to him. Now if I could just convince him to follow me around for a few days… 😀

Be back when I can! (I really need to write a macro for that phrase!)

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  1. Ms. Sharkey
    December 13, 2014 at 5:28 pm

    Oh AG, it never rains but it pours! I’m so sorry you and your husband are having to deal with this in top of everything else. I’m glad to hear that your husband is doing well and in such good hands. Huge hugs from me.


  2. December 13, 2014 at 5:28 pm

    My prayers go out to you and your family.


    • Happylou
      January 1, 2015 at 10:55 pm

      Have been thinking of you and hoping for the best for you and your husband. May the new year bring all good things and positive energy your way!!

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      • January 1, 2015 at 11:01 pm

        Thank you so much, Happylou. It’s so lovely to hear from you. Best wishes to you as well for a peaceful and healthy 2015!


  3. Still Waters Run Deep
    December 13, 2014 at 5:57 pm

    Well wishes for your husband. And I know you are looking and needing care for yourself but just wanted to tell you I went thru something very similar to what your husband just did. I am almost two years post ablation and am doing well. Just a heads up, I (as well as others I have talked to who have had similar procedures) still had heart arythmias off and on for about a year or more after the ablation. I have been symptom free now for a good 6-9 months. When it did pop again it wasn’t near as severe.
    It takes sooooo much energy to be strong for others when you are needing care yourself and the desire to just throw up your hands and walk away is very palpable. Been there done that – I really do feel for you. Quick healing for your husband. 🙂


  4. Michelle
    December 13, 2014 at 6:18 pm

    AG, you are doing so awesome!! It takes so much strength and bravery to deal with what you’re doing in therapy let alone blog about it and now coping with your husband’s health issues. The very fact that you’re acknowledging everyone’s needs, including YOUR OWN, tells me that you WILL get through this!!! Sending you BIG hugs and wishing your husband a speedy recovery!!


  5. drgeraldstein
    December 13, 2014 at 6:51 pm

    Shakespeare wrote, “When sorrows come, they come not single spies, but in battalions.” What he didn’t know was that you are up to the fight!


  6. December 13, 2014 at 8:34 pm

    ((((AG))))) Sending hugs and love and prayers your way. Hoping for a speedy recovery for your husband, and that you’ll get the support you need through it all too. Go gently (((((hugs))))))


  7. Ann
    December 14, 2014 at 3:52 pm

    Sending love to you and your husband! Try to take care of each other and don’t stress over the holiday stuff! Xoxoxo Ann


  8. kelly
    December 14, 2014 at 4:24 pm

    Thinking of you at this time, be sure to look after yourself


  9. Pop
    December 15, 2014 at 6:24 am

    Sending big hugs and love xxxx


  10. PWW
    December 15, 2014 at 7:36 am

    Adding my thoughts and prayers to you and your family. Take good care…


  11. Little Blond Girl
    December 15, 2014 at 9:56 am

    you’ve certainly got a lot on your plate right now….take very good care of yourself and I hope all works out with your health and your husbands. Sending positive thoughts your way.


  12. December 15, 2014 at 8:31 pm

    Thank you all so much for your love and support. The comments have meant so much to me as they have come in, it helps so much to know I am not alone (And Dr. Stein may I say that there’s nothing like Shakespeare to really nail a situation! I am always amazed at his insight into human nature!) It also very much helps to know that you all see me as up for the challenge!

    My husband had an ablation today which went very well. He was in a bit of pain afterwards which was driving his blood pressure up, so he was given some morphine which knocked him out. So the doctor and nurse both thought it was a good idea to keep him one more night just to make sure he was ok. I very much agreed. But he should be coming home tomorrow. The procedure seems to have been very successful as the telemetry on his heart looks better than I have ever seen it. with a marked decrease in the arrhythmia. I’m feeling very relieved and a little wrung out. I think tomorrow is going to consist of watching several Christmas movies and not much else. 🙂 Love to all, AG


  13. Ann
    December 16, 2014 at 11:30 am

    I say they gave the morphine to the wrong person. 🙂 Maybe the hospital could have spread that around to the caretaker!!! I am glad your husband is doing well. Xo


  14. December 18, 2014 at 10:01 am

    Lots of support, AG! I hope that your husband is doing well and that your family has as peaceful and restorative of a Christmas holiday as possible.


    • December 18, 2014 at 10:25 am

      Thanks Cat! My husband is home from the hospital and doing well. He returns to work next Monday. I’m back today, which is good cause I needed some rest! 🙂 I’ve kind of collapsed but gotten some good sleep the last two nights and am starting to approach something resembling a human being. See BN in a few hours and think that will help. Wishing you a peaceful Christmas as well!


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