Must Read Blog

I just found a really valuable blog written by Dr. Jeffrey Smith, a psychiatrist who works in Scarsdale, NY. I want to thank his reader K who very kindly linked to my blog, which is how I found Moments of Change. He writes with incredible clarity, and compassion about therapy, how it heals, and the therapeutic relationship while providing insight into the therapist’s side of the relationship. Go read this man! Start with this article Attachment to your Therapist II and its follow-up, Part III: How Relationships Transform.

UPDATE: Sorry, start here! Attachment to Your Therapist


  1. Little Blond Girl
    February 24, 2013 at 3:19 pm

    Check out also the first article Attachment to your therapist
    It’s the first of the three on this topic.
    And you’re welcome AG – I find your writing very insightful and helpful…


  2. Little Blond Girl
    February 24, 2013 at 3:23 pm

    Oops, sorry, just realized you have the update!


  3. February 24, 2013 at 3:55 pm

    LBG!! Didn’t realize it was you! 😀 And as for the addition, you know what they say “Great minds think alike.” 😉 I had to force myself to stop reading on his site, since I’m supposed to be working on our income taxes! Thanks again.


  4. February 24, 2013 at 5:50 pm

    Hi AG,

    I have read this blog before (I surf a LOT!) ;). This passage in his first post on attachment is what gave me the will to plow through my fear and be more honest with my T recently about my feelings for him:

    “…As they intensify, they become less realistic, less adult and more insistent. This may be embarrassing, even cause for feelings of shame, but it is exactly what has to happen…. This part of the therapy process doesn’t feel like therapy at all. There is nothing as-if about it. It feels like anger and pain and sadness about life. For better or worse, that is when the most important therapeutic work gets done.”

    So encouraging! Thanks for recommending!


    • February 28, 2013 at 9:30 pm

      I can really understand how you found him so encouraging; I’m very glad it gave you the courage to be open with your therapist. Thanks for letting me know, makes me even happier I posted about his blog. 😀 ~AG


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  6. January 29, 2014 at 8:23 am

    Good post. Thanks for sharing. I appreciate as a therapist reading other therapists experiences and thoughts. Best wishes


  7. February 23, 2014 at 10:59 pm

    Hi Howard,
    Welcome to my blog and thanks for commenting. I’m glad you enjoyed reading Dr. Smith’s blog. I think he writes with a lot of clarity. And I’m a big fan of therapists who are open to learning from other therapists. Thanks for taking the time to say this. ~ AG


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